Daily Inventory - Seeing the Boy... finding the Man

Step 4 Encouragement - Seeing the Boy - Finding the Man


What is the payoff of being a child vs. the cost of being an adult?

As Children:

· Women look to their fathers for a hero. They are often left without one & find it difficult to trust and share control with men.

· Men look to their mothers for self worth. They are often left without approval & find it difficult to trust and share control with women.

As Adults:

· Men come to their wives as a child seeking approval & self worth. Men may find dependency or independency as the way to fill the need for approval or deny it; always resenting the need for it and the control it gives their women over them.

· Women come to their husbands as a child seeking a hero. Women may take control or surrender all of it as a way to fill their need for the hero or deny it; always resenting the need for it and the control it gives their men over them.

What is missing?

· Why can’t women give their husbands the approval they seek?

· Why can’t men be the heroes their wives want them to be?


Because We Must Control What Others Think of Us at All Costs...
for we have been hurt!

Our supreme fear is that others see who we fear we have become…
And that they will abandon us.
And so we have hidden our own true selves beneath our addictions.


Our inventory is simply finding OUR OWN TRUE SELVES.

The one God made
The one God loves
The one God has forgiven!

In and through our past conflicts, struggles, triumphs & victories.


LET US SEE THE BOY AND FIND THE MAN ---



LET THE DIGGING BEGIN.

SW

Teach a child...

Teach a child to be polite and courteous, and when he grows up, he'll never be able to edge his car onto a freeway. - Old Joke

Being nice at all costs, costs all. - SW.


Just a thought...

Beatitude2 Diet - Week 35 - 1

RESULTS: Down 1 lb - for 27 lbs Total

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State of sobriety from 09/26/05= 7 days.
Weight as of 7am 10/03/05 = 213 lbs.
LOSS for week ended 10/03/05 => 214-213 = 1 lbs.
Total diet loss 1 weeks to date => 214-213 = 1 lbs.
Average weekly loss over 1 weeks = 1 lbs per week.

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Total loss since 01/31/05 over 245 days / 35 weeks = 240-213 = 27 lbs

Percentage of Goal 240-175 = 27 lbs/65 lbs = 42%

Slow start. not getting regular breakfast. not doing soup for lunch. blah blah blah. surprised by any loss.

SW